We provide contact with others who have had similar experiences through our meetings, phone support and through our quarterly magazine Hearts & Wings. Knowing others are out there who have experienced this kind of loss breaks the feelings of isolation that are so commonly felt. The magazine reaches people anywhere in the country, from the big cities to the small towns where there really might be nobody else to talk with. It contains stories from readers, information on topics such as grief for couples, children, memory making ideas, poems, articles and an anniversary page where the names of our lost ones are acknowledged.

Support can be offered before the birth of the twins when it is known that one of the babies has died and the parents are faced with the unthinkable situation of carrying the survivor on to term or when the baby is not expected to survive long after birth. We have some very helpful articles for both these circumstances and can provide contact with other parents who have been through this tragedy.

Support is offered to families who have lost all their of their multiple birth children or part of their set at anytime during the pregnancy right through to the loss of young children or teenagers or adult twins and for any reason. While the circumstances surrounding the loss may be different, there are common feelings unique to twin loss that make being part of a understanding group helpful.

The loss of a twin sibling as a child or an adult is another unique situation. Only another lone twin knows how it feels to lose a truly lifelong companion. If you are an adult who has just lost their twin sibling then we can help and support you as you learn to live again with out your twin. You are not alone, there are other lone twins who would be happy to be in touch with you if you would like.

For those in Auckland, we hold an informal get together of parents raising a lone twin (or the survivor of higher multiples) called Angel Friends. We meet in the friendly environment of one another’s homes. Lone twins and their siblings are most welcome to come along and play while we share our thoughts and feelings over a shared morning tea.

For others, we are able to connect families with others who have been through similar losses by email or phone or recommend meetings that may be available in your own area.

Making contact with Twin Loss NZ will not be intrusive into your grief. The support you receive may be as simple as receiving our quarterly magazine which you can read in the comfortable surroundings of your own home. You may like further contact at some time with others at a time that is right for you. you may want to meet together at one of our regular meetings. You may make contact soon after your loss... or you may contact us weeks, months or years later. Often we find ourselves surrounded by support in the early days, from friends and family but it is not long before this support can drift away and we are left feeling that we should have “got over it by now”. This of course is not the case as a loss such as this impacts us all in all kinds of ways long in to the future and knowing that our feelings are probably “normal” can give some sense of peace and comfort.

Finally, we would like to say how sorry we are for the loss you have suffered. Take care and please do not hesitate to contact us...

Rosemary and Jan